Comments on: Why is asking for help so difficult? http://www.myjourneywithdepression.com/why-is-asking-for-help-so-difficult My Journey with Depression Fri, 21 Nov 2008 23:41:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Elliot http://www.myjourneywithdepression.com/why-is-asking-for-help-so-difficult#comment-409 Elliot Sat, 21 Jun 2008 17:59:07 +0000 http://www.myjourneywithdepression.com/why-is-asking-for-help-so-difficult#comment-409 Your post does make sense and if it get's things out in the open and off your chest then it is better if you posted + i like reading what your write =D. I would say it would be because we are afraid of how others will react because talking about the way we feel is something we're not used to it.I found talking to somebody for the first time daunting. I may just be stating the obvious here but we should only care about the opinions of those that care about us even if it may be hard otherwise we simply leave ourselves vulnerable to others. Your post does make sense and if it get’s things out in the open and off your chest then it is better if you posted + i like reading what your write =D.

I would say it would be because we are afraid of how others will react because talking about the way we feel is something we’re not used to it.I found talking to somebody for the first time daunting. I may just be stating the obvious here but we should only care about the opinions of those that care about us even if it may be hard otherwise we simply leave ourselves vulnerable to others.

]]> By: Meryine http://www.myjourneywithdepression.com/why-is-asking-for-help-so-difficult#comment-401 Meryine Fri, 20 Jun 2008 16:57:17 +0000 http://www.myjourneywithdepression.com/why-is-asking-for-help-so-difficult#comment-401 This post is well written and makes does a lot of sense! In my experience, When you're in a downward spiral, you know what you need to get out; but because you're in that spiral the thoughts of hopelessness and unimportance, worthlessness ect,. eat away at you, pushing you further and further down and away from asking for help. In a stable state, the thoughts aren't necessarly so bad. It's more appealing to ask for help then, you know thats its a good "waste" of your friends time, and is much better than self-harming or worse. I'm reluctant to ask for help as I always fear that criticism, or to not get the kind of response I need. But if there is a friend, or family who understands, who has helped before and is willing to help, they are the people to go for - just if I can battle the asking for help bit. I have social anxiety and find it terrifying to make phone calls, so I send a slightly needy text, if they don't reply I try someone else...Which isn't always the best way to get help, but it's as far as I can go sometimes... This post is well written and makes does a lot of sense! In my experience, When you’re in a downward spiral, you know what you need to get out; but because you’re in that spiral the thoughts of hopelessness and unimportance, worthlessness ect,. eat away at you, pushing you further and further down and away from asking for help. In a stable state, the thoughts aren’t necessarly so bad. It’s more appealing to ask for help then, you know thats its a good “waste” of your friends time, and is much better than self-harming or worse. I’m reluctant to ask for help as I always fear that criticism, or to not get the kind of response I need. But if there is a friend, or family who understands, who has helped before and is willing to help, they are the people to go for - just if I can battle the asking for help bit. I have social anxiety and find it terrifying to make phone calls, so I send a slightly needy text, if they don’t reply I try someone else…Which isn’t always the best way to get help, but it’s as far as I can go sometimes…

]]> By: Mary http://www.myjourneywithdepression.com/why-is-asking-for-help-so-difficult#comment-393 Mary Thu, 19 Jun 2008 17:19:23 +0000 http://www.myjourneywithdepression.com/why-is-asking-for-help-so-difficult#comment-393 How very true....I am bad for not asking for help, especially when I really need it. I don't want to bother anyone, and if i need help when I am feeling really depressed again I have a hard time asking for it...its so hard..mary How very true….I am bad for not asking for help, especially when I really need it. I don’t want to bother anyone, and if i need help when I am feeling really depressed again I have a hard time asking for it…its so hard..mary

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